Bishounen Ai

I'm Romi from Buenos Aires, Argentina.






I don’t know why we keep equating Birth Control pills with Condoms, they are not the same thing. There ARE female condoms, and they are the same thing. Not often used I don’t think but they do exist. 

Birth control pills however are a drug, and have side effects. And fuck up the environment severely. There are comparable pills for men too, but they are iffy as to whether they will permanently damage the male. You can get monthly shots though if you’re a man, and I’ve read that those are more effective than birth control. 

Because there isn’t currently a male equivalent for hormonal BC on the market, as you noted, so this is the most convenient comparison to make. It doesn’t say anywhere in it that condoms have side effects; the entire purpose of this not to comment on condoms, it’s to show cis men what it’s actually like to get birth control, because so many of them seem to be under the impression you can pop into Sams Club and pick up a mega-pack for a cool $2.50 or some shit.

Also, RE: the sentence I bolded above, hormonal BC pills have caused lasting health consequences and in some cases DEATH in the people who take them, and yet it’s concern that cis men MIGHT experience side effects down the road that’s keeping male BC from the shelves. People with working uteri are regularly expected (by their cis male partners) to take responsibility for pregnancy prevention by taking birth control even though it’s potentially hazardous to their health, and then we get shit on by everyone from your local religious pharmacist to the god damn Supreme Court.

I was on birth control pills for twenty years. ‘Round about my mid-thirties, my doctor suggested I get an IUD instead.

When I asked why, he looked up from his chart and said “Because nobody really knows what those things are doing to you long-term, and I’d feel much better if you were off them before you turn forty.”

I switched a month later. The Pill was great when I needed it, but Christ, we’d need to do more and better.

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Kim Kelley-Wagner has two daughters who were adopted from China. In everyday life, they have been subjected to horrid statements from people - to their faces, to their mother as they stood by her, etc. In this photo collection, shared on her blog, Kim and her daughters (Lily and Meika) put these ignorant cruelties front and center. [x]

"I have tried to explain to my daughters that people do not say these things to be mean, they say them out of ignorance, which is why I am sharing some of them. Words are powerful, they can become tools or weapons, choose to use them wisely."

(via avengingthenormandy)